pardesi, the word chod was underlined. This one isn't the worst one, there was one that I cannot reproduce here.
Just a few days before that, during a class in our college's seminar hall,I lifted my notebook from the table to find the word 'sex' very carefully scribbled there with a blue ballpoint. It hadn't only been scribbled, it had been painstakingly boldened.
Heights of sexual frustration? I guess this only proves the point of a male friend who said 'One in six seconds, a guy is thinking about sex'. I had been putting off writing about this for quite a while, the incidents mentioned above spurred me on.
In the past few weeks, I have twice had arguments with (female) friends X and Y who until late (one has changed her mind) have always claimed 'All men are dogs/bastards/
Their reason? Why are women judged on the basis of their figures? Why do people we know instantly judge a girl based on the size of her bust, butts etc.? Why do so many men persist in their belief that women are 'dumb bitches'? This comment because she and a group of friends had gone to a pub where, while they were
entering, a couple of 'well-dressed educated' young guys loudly said 'Girls are such bitches'.
I argued that ALL men were not bastards/dogs/etc. because it seemed naive to me and you can't generalize and I think that I DO know a few members of the 'darker?' sex who do not belong to that category. Yet as I see the number of incidents like the one above increasing, I begin wondering if those few people are 'two-faced' as X & Y seem to claim.
Two-faced because they talk decently to girls when they're talking to them and the moment their back is turned, back to the old situation, girls are brainless bimbos created for their visual satisfaction.
I tried supporting my argument by saying that guys think differently from girls and looks matter more to guys than they matter to girls (most of them at least). Plus, I think guys when they're older have much more sense and better judgement when it comes to girls. To which Y said, that they wouldn't change and that even after marriage they'd talk about their wives
the same way as they'd discuss the 'chicks on the street'. Hm.
Another point that occurred to me was that the media bombards visuals of half-naked women (a phrase I am using at the risk of sounding like a prude, which on second thoughts I may be) at these people left, right and center. Which Which
warm-blooded male (hehe) would not be prone to these, considering that its going beyond all limits? Very few people have the time to think about these issues, much lesser time to take a stand on them. It is considered so normal that it would never occur to them that it could be a matter of principle.
And of course, when they get to see live or even near examples of what they see on endless remixes, magazine covers, newspapers etc., wouldn't they tend to relate? In this case, I think women should dress more responsibly or be ready to bear the comments. There's only so much you can do about other people's mentalities.
Another point which came to mind, was that in my opinion, people who stay in residential colleges etc. can exercise their freedom to a much greater extent than other people who went home to their family after school/college. Here where you have a fast internet connection and the privacy of your room, what more would you need? Nobody to stop you from doing what you want, except the weight of your own conscience. Who even recognizes that word these days?
My sister studies in one of the top medical colleges of the state where residence is an option. Many, yet definitely not all, are drunk all day.She heard that they often visit red-light areas. The guys in my college are still far from that I think, what I really respect them for is that they've never passed (audible) comments when girls are going by and are mostly decent. Yet, indirect, anonymous comments are increasing and I guess I won't be surprised if they turn out the same way though it will take time.
As for the media part,sure, sex sells. But do you have to bring something (which in my (laughable?) opinion would be the best way to cement an honest, committed relationship) that sublime to the streets just to generate money? I wonder if they know how much they're hurting women (who sometimes indirectly hurt innocent men because of this). Wouldn't such obviously addictive visuals make any person's mind revolve only around sex? Then doesn't it automatically follow that women will be gawked at, felt up at
the provocation that they're women? Can you even balance that terrible sense of violation and all that money?
To those who've reached this point (wow!), I'm sorry about the lecturing and the holier-than-thou tone. But it really hurts. Black and white will never be enough to explain.